Gender and Sexuality

Exploring the Spectrum of Gender Identity

As we navigate the vibrant world of consensual non-monogamy, we must acknowledge the depth and breadth of gender identity that exists within our community. No longer confined to a binary, we recognize that our members may identify as male, female, non-binary, genderfluid, or any other self-defined expression. Each identity deserves our full respect, understanding, and support.

In our spaces, we foster an atmosphere where people are encouraged to introduce themselves with their preferred pronouns, and we actively use them in all conversations. By normalizing this practice, we send a clear message: every person’s identity is valid and honored.

Understanding the Many Facets of Sexuality

Human sexuality is wonderfully diverse. We understand that our community includes individuals who identify as heterosexual, bisexual, pansexual, queer, lesbian, gay, or fluid. Some couples are mixed-orientation. Some people discover new facets of their sexuality through respectful exploration within the lifestyle.

Our commitment is to hold space for these experiences without judgment. By embracing a culture of continuous consent and open-mindedness, we create rooms and events that welcome different combinations of connections—male-female, female-female, male-male, and more.

Challenging Old Stereotypes

In the past, the lifestyle scene was often shaped by rigid assumptions: that men pursue and women agree, that only heteronormative pairings exist, or that male-male intimacy is taboo while female-female play is expected. We reject these outdated notions.

We recognize that all people—regardless of gender—can take initiative, set boundaries, and seek experiences that fulfill them. We cultivate environments where men can explore bisexual curiosity without fear of stigma, where women can voice their boundaries boldly, and where gender-diverse individuals are treated with the same respect as anyone else.

Inclusive Language and Policies

We maintain clear policies that protect the dignity of every guest. From club entry guidelines to playroom etiquette, our language is inclusive and precise. For instance:

• Dress codes respect gender expression and do not enforce rigid binaries.

• We use gender-neutral signage where appropriate.

• Our staff and hosts are trained to use correct names and pronouns.

• We never tolerate jokes or slurs about someone’s gender identity or sexuality.

In our communications—emails, websites, event pages—we write using language that reflects and affirms diversity. Small actions like these build safer spaces for everyone.

Creating Welcoming Spaces

We design our events, clubs, and gatherings to offer varied settings. Some rooms may be tailored for male-female couples; others for same-gender or mixed-gender play. Dedicated theme nights may highlight lesbian or queer experiences. Private areas allow exploration free from the gaze of those who do not share or understand an interest.

We invite open feedback from our community, listening carefully to those whose voices have historically been marginalized. Their input helps us adapt, grow, and ensure everyone feels not merely tolerated but celebrated.

Respect for Personal Boundaries

One person’s curiosity does not obligate another to participate. Clear, enthusiastic consent is the bedrock of our lifestyle. We never assume someone’s preferences based on their gender or presentation. We encourage direct, respectful conversation before any new interaction.

By normalizing simple questions—“Are you comfortable?”, “What are you into tonight?”—we dismantle awkwardness and uphold autonomy. This protects all genders and orientations equally.

Support for New Explorations

Many people first learn about their bisexual or pansexual side in consensual, trusting settings. We honor that stepping into the unknown can feel vulnerable. We offer clear guidelines for hosts and experienced members to welcome, guide, and protect those taking first steps.

Workshops, online groups, and discussion circles help our members share their stories, ask questions, and find reassurance that they are not alone on this journey.

Challenging Bias Within Ourselves

As a community, we must hold up a mirror to our own biases. Are we truly making space for non-binary guests? Do we treat male bisexuality with the same openness we afford female bisexuality? Are we reinforcing gendered double standards when we design our events?

By asking these questions regularly, we hold ourselves accountable to a higher standard of equity and respect. This self-reflection is what keeps our spaces healthy and progressive.

Connecting Across Differences

We recognize that conversations about gender and sexuality are not always easy. Partners may have different comfort levels with same-gender experiences. Some couples negotiate complex agreements about what is allowed and what is not. Some people fear how their curiosities may change the dynamic of a partnership.

We encourage honest, gentle communication. Checking in before, during, and after play keeps everyone emotionally safe. We respect when someone changes their mind or discovers that an idea that sounded exciting does not feel right in practice.

Celebrating Fluidity

Identity can change over time. A person who once identified as straight may discover they are bi-curious. Someone who once felt certain about their gender may find their expression evolving. Within our community, this evolution is welcomed, not feared.

We commit to ongoing education—reading, listening, and sharing stories. We invite guest speakers and experts to keep us informed about evolving language and best practices for inclusion.

Zero Tolerance for Discrimination

Any form of harassment, mocking, or disrespect related to gender or sexuality is grounds for immediate removal from our spaces. We enforce this rule firmly. When people feel truly safe, they can express themselves fully—and that freedom is at the heart of why we gather.

Moving Forward Together

We believe that a thriving lifestyle community is one where all genders and sexualities find acceptance, safety, and joy. We pledge to nurture an environment where curiosity is met with kindness, where exploration is met with consent, and where everyone’s truth is honored.

As we continue to grow, we remain committed to conversations that push us forward. We know that the world changes quickly—new understandings of gender and sexuality will keep emerging, and we will adapt with open minds and open hearts.

Gender and sexuality in the lifestyle are not boxes to check, but beautiful, fluid landscapes to navigate with care, curiosity, and deep mutual respect. This is how we thrive, together.